The pains of growing up

The pains of growing up isn't getting good grades in school, isn't getting into a good school nor meeting friends then losing them.

To me, the pains of growing up is growing in a family that has stiflingdifferent understanding and views on matters and you have to manage that, without too much of yourself shown to the family.

But if you can't be yourself with the family, then whom get you be very comfortable with?